Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and of service to your people. Always give a word or sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, or even a stranger, if in a lonely place. Show respect to all people, but grovel to none. When you rise in the morning, give thanks for the light, for your life, for your strength. Give thanks for your food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason to give thanks, the fault lies in yourself.

A Thanksgiving Reading (excerpt -shared by a colleague)

Gasoline Doesn’t Put Out Fires

5 things to remember when the situation is heated

gasoline-fireAs we walk through our days, occasionally we encounter a fire. Sometimes it’s a little tiny fire and sometimes it’s huge. Sometimes its the result of our own carelessness and sometimes it had nothing to do with us. But, regardless of who started it, the fire exists.

So what do you do when you encounter a fire?

That depends. Different fires require different strategies.

But I’ll tell you what you don’t do. You don’t throw gasoline on that fire.

Amateur firefighters like us may disagree on the best ways to put out a fire, but I’m confident we’d at least agree on avoiding the gas option.

Because it will only make things worse.

In this situation, this seems obvious. But when we transfer the same line of thinking into our relational fires, we sometimes forget to do this.

In the midst of heated situations, it’s important to make sure we don’t “throw gas” on an already highly-fueled situation.Read More

3 Tips if You’re Interested in Living with Less


A while back, Anna from asked me the following question for a project she was working on: “What are your top 3 tips for someone who is interested in living with less?”

It was a great question because it gets to the heart of at least two common pain points:

  • First, we have too much stuff and we know it.
  • Second, we don’t have enough time to do all that we’d like to do (hence the request for a short, pointed list)

The emphasis on giving your “top 3 tips” helps narrow it down to some of the most impactful yet doable actions.

Again, it’s a good question. Here’s my stab at an answer.

I’m not sure if these are the most important things you can consider, but they’ve been some of the most impactful for me as I’ve pursued a more focused life.

3 Tips if You’re Interested in Living with Less

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5 Reasons Why It’s Okay to Say “I Don’t Know”

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Why is it SO hard to say “I don’t know”? It’s a simple sentence made up of three very basic words… but they’re weighty!

It’s not uncommon for us to feel tremendous pressure to have all the answers. We are managing expectations being put on us by friends and co-workers, as well as those we place on ourselves.

It’s easy to give in to the pressure and act like you know something that you really don’t.  Pride can be hard to swallow.  You don’t want to feel like an idiot in front of the others, so you lie, or twist the truth, or, at the very least, answer deceitfully.  You already know this, but I’ll remind you again…

That’s not good.

It will likely come back to bite you.  If not, you still have to live with yourself.

On the other hand, there are times when you live up to your values and speak honestly.… Read More

Why I decided to trust the world again with what I believe

2 Reasons to Be Yourself

I decided to trust the world again

My relationship with the internet is complicated. On the one hand, I’m amazed at the ability to connect with like-minded people all over the world on very specific topics. On the other hand, at times I’m turned off by the entitlement and anger that works it’s way into threads and posts.

You’re probably nodding in agreement right now.

Social media isn’t good or bad. It’s amoral. It just magnifies and amplifies the character and perspective of the person using it. Which means it has HUGE potential to build and encourage and help, as well as tear down and criticize and destroy. That’s just the way it is. You can’t have one without the other.

Throughout my life, I’ve worked hard to be authentic and consistent. I’ve always valued “keepin’ it real” and not acting like something that I’m not. However, I also realize the importance of reserving your influence. I know it’s important to choose your words carefully because a) you could hurt someone, or b) your words could be twisted and used against you.… Read More

4 Simple Tips for Becoming a Better Person

4 simple tips becoming better person v2I want to be a better person tomorrow than I am today. Since you’re reading this, I’m assuming you want the same thing!

It’s so easy to get discouraged when we focus on our failures. We sometimes feel like we’ll never be all that we’d like to be.

Success in this area depends on the little decisions we make every single day.  So, it’s important that we not allow fear of failure to paralyze us and stop us from taking steps in the right direction TODAY.

How we define “a Better Person” will vary with each of us based on our values.

Whatever our definition, here are 4 Simple Tips to remember as you pursue getting “better”:

1- Surround yourself with good people.

Each of us will be drastically affected by the people with whom we spend time.  … Read More

5 Questions to Ask Before Trusting Someone’s Information

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Who do you trust? Who do you go to for dependable information? When you realize the importance of questioning your beliefs, you begin to look around for additional information and perspectives. But where do you look?

The sources we reference are pretty important.

These days, there is more information flying around us than ever before. It’s not always easy to sort through it and find the truth.

I’m not going to tell you who you should listen to. That’s up to you.

I just want to recommend some questions to ask yourself when you’re making those decisions.

Before we look at those questions, here are a few things to think about:

You must dig and pursue answers. You owe it to yourself to do some homework on the things you claim to believe. You can’t just “take everyone’s word for it” on the most important things. You have to find out why.… Read More

6 Reasons Why You Should Question Your Beliefs

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What you believe is really important. Your beliefs affect your actions and influence the direction of your life. If they are healthy and appropriate, that’s a good thing. If they are misaligned and based on false assumptions, they can create all kinds of chaos.

You might think that questioning your beliefs should be an obvious and natural thing to do. But not everyone thinks so.

  • Scared that we’ll look stupid because of what we’ve believed all these years.
  • Scared that the other guy might be right.
  • Scared that we won’t like the answer we’ll find.
  • Scared that there won’t be an answer.
  • Etc.

Many people struggle with the idea of reconsidering their assumptions. If that’s where you are today, I’d like to recommend…

6 Reasons Why You Should Question Your Beliefs:

1. Truth can stand scrutiny.Read More

Victory over clutter- one battle at a time

Attack 1 problem area with these 5 steps!

victory over clutterNo matter how cluttered your life has become, there is a way out! Even if you have piles of stuff everywhere you turn, you can gain a small victory, today!

And a small victory is all you need. It’s the next step.

When we look at the whole house or the whole project or our whole career or our whole life, and see ALL that we have to do, we get frustrated.

Don’t do that to yourself today. That will only make you feel worse.

Instead, just pick ONE area that has gotten a little out of control and do something about it.

You probably can’t solve all your problems this week, but you can DEFINITELY gain a small victory over one problem area!

It might be…

  • ONE closet.
  • ONE room.
  • ONE countertop.
  • ONE section of the garage.
  • ONE car.
  • ONE drawer.
  • ONE bookshelf.
  • ONE page of your email inbox.
  • ONE stack of papers.
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